Control
The writer Hugh Prather made this arresting statement: “Have you ever noticed that the moment you become unhappy is usually the moment you attempt to control another person?”
This reminds me: I was managing an orchestra, and two days before a concert a big storm dropped 2 feet of snow. The owner of the venue’s parking lot refused to commit to plowing the lot before the concert, … and he told me I had no right to have it plowed myself.